You just need him to know how fake and distorted pornography is, and if he’s looking at it that means it’s time to think about what he really can expect, and hope for, from a sexual relationship as he gets older. He’s “busted,” but the “crime” is just being normal. You can even utilize a little bit of humor. So it is crucial that you address this issue in a non-judgmental way. And the fact is that kids are going to be exposed to this - because of the ubiquity of sex on the Internet everyone is. You want to be clear that this type of curiosity is natural and there’s nothing to be embarrassed about. Parents need to be as matter of fact as possible when talking about sex and sexuality with children. He’s moving into an age when that is very important. And you don’t want him to be so guilty he doesn’t develop a healthy sexual identity. It might be an awkward conversation, but you don’t want him to have to hide this stuff away or be ashamed of his curiosity. The short answer is yes, talk to your son about the pornography.
